To build a new life, the old one has to fall apart
Do you know how to recognize massive shifts in your life?
To build a new life, the old one has to fall apart.
Change in your life cannot happen without growth. And growth, the same as healing, is messy. It is not a linear path of one victory after another.
Growth is painful and disappointing in the beginning, only to find it rewarding in the end.
Your soul is evolving and searching for the truth. It is calling you to push through old patterns and beliefs that keep you stuck.
If you wish to dive into the signs leading you to a new level in your life, buckle up. You are in for a ride.
You don’t follow the easy path.
Look around. You have countless distractions competing for your attention. Colourful displays. Notifications. Loud banners. Crowded places.
When people mindlessly give in to distractions to numb their pain, hush their guilt or keep boredom away, they choose the easy path.
It is astonishing how many people have mistaken avoiding negative feelings for a life hack.
You are not one of them.
You notice your surroundings. You see through the matrix and question the role of advertisement, technology and modern entertainment.
Not every invention is wrong. Many innovations are a blessing. But you are careful about any novelty and protective of your attention.
Suppressing negative emotions is easy. Dealing with the aftermath is not.
If you start noticing habits that pull you away from experiencing the diversity of emotions, it is a sign you are upgrading. Instead of running away from guilt or jealousy, you question its origin.
What is this feeling trying to communicate?
What do I think I lack? What am I missing?
It is the stage of alienation. You feel alone in the pursuit of your ambitions as everyone seems to travel in the opposite direction. Waking up to your true potential hurts.
When everyone is chasing, you feel content. When everyone is buying into the next hype, you declutter your lifestyle of things you don’t need.
If you feel the pull toward an alternative lifestyle, searching for a place to call your own, carry on.
The beaten path is boring. The next level of your life is anything but boring.
It takes nothing to join the crowd. It takes everything to stand alone.
— Hans F Hansen
You feel okay with changes.
Every life’s transformation feels unfamiliar, thus uncomfortable.
You used to cling to the comfort of the familiar and make excuses for avoiding any changes in your reality. You procrastinated with sending out resumes. You run away from uncomfortable conversations.
Today, instead of fearing changes, you embrace the discomfort they carry. You realize changes are an indispensable part of growth.
Comfort zone breeds procrastination. Changes open the door to new opportunities.
The ego dreads transformations. But ego is no longer in the driver’s seat. Your soul is.
Instead of wasting your energy and clinging to the comfort of the familiar, you create something new.
You embrace discomfort as you understand it is the only way to gain expertise and experience. You approach the challenge with the curiosity of a child.
It is the stage of excitement mixed with fear. You can smell new possibilities and are eager to jump on the next train to a foreign destination.
Yet, there is a part of you that fears the unknown. Instead of giving in to the voice of fear, you treat it as an equal — a faithful companion on your way to victory.
Changes of today will become your new ‘normal’ tomorrow.
Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams than you are to your comfort zone.
– Billy Cox
You notice patterns and break them.
You cannot change something you are not aware of.
The best expertise comes from observing yourself. When you start feeling uncomfortable with your lifestyle, it means you are approaching a new phase.
You have finally realized that to change your life, you have to stop doing things the old way.
It is the same with diets and detoxes. Changing your eating patterns makes you feel lighter and more energized. You gravitate towards new tastes. To maintain this new energy, you stick to new habits.
Response + Event = Outcome
To influence the outside world (the event), you need to change your inner world (your response).
You recognize the habits that bring you closer to your goals and which ones get in the way. Your life is calling to break old patterns so that new ones can blossom.
As you grow into a new version of yourself, you shed layers that no longer fit. You purify your lifestyle of toxic patterns. You cut ties with people who make you feel emotionally sapped.
It is the stage of confusion. As you shift perspective, you begin to perceive reality anew. Old ways don’t fit. Societal conditioning is rubbing up against your new hopes and dreams.
You are breaking free.
You’ll never change your life until you change something that you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.
– John C. Maxwell
You take responsibility for your happiness.
And happiness doesn’t always arrive dressed up and looking pretty.
Happiness hides in excruciating heartbreak helping you see your worth after years of poor treatment.
Happiness can disguise itself in quitting that job you hate.
You feel empowered to make bold choices as you understand that happiness comes from conquering the lows.
You are no longer willing to stand by and watch the happiness slips by. Instead, you make choices that don’t align with society’s expectations. And those choices make you stronger than ever.
Taking ownership for your happiness is a neon sign of self-love and compassion. The submission to the wishes of others comes at the price of suppressing your needs.
You are the happiest when you are authentic.
It is the stage of empowerment. You feel like a rebel, a misfit who stands up for values that carry a message. Following your heart’s desire requires courage and non-conformity.
The courage to break the toxic cycles in your surroundings does not come with glory. But it comes with a victory — living life on your terms.
When everyone tells you to “get real”, you dream bigger. And make others uncomfortable by the magnitude of your ideas.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
— Eleanor Roosevelt
You discipline your thoughts.
You decoded old beliefs that determined your life. And you consciously break those limiting assumptions.
You understand that to create a new life, you need to create new beliefs.
You start your day asking:
What is my goal?
What beliefs would I have if I had believed I could reach that goal?
You believe it before you can see it. Instead of focusing on limitations and worrying, you are mindful about your self-talk.
When you change the story you tell yourself, you change the story of your life. Any external change begins in your inner world. The thoughts you project outside determine what happens next.
You cultivate beliefs that rock your boat forward:
I am getting better every day.
I recognize opportunities and open new doors.
Obstacles do not intimidate me. They support my success.
Your life improves when you surround yourself with positive, affirming, and non-judgmental thoughts.
It is the stage of peace. You know where you are going and what you need to do to arrive at the destination. Instead of chasing the next high and appearing ‘busy’, you create with ease.
Your mental altitude is your creative power.
Beautify your thoughts. Thoughts are the headwaters of action, life and manifestation.
— David Wolfe
Contributed by Katarzyna Portka
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