This is how to embrace failure with full confidence
“The secret of life is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.” — Paulo Coelho, a Brazilian lyricist and novelist
Failure sucks. Learning from failure can be difficult.
Sometimes, it can be tough to move on. It can be challenging to get motivated after you fail. It can be difficult to push forward.
The good news is that we all fail in life. It is one of the only guarantees in life. We will fail repeatedly.
Failure can take many forms, and it can feel empty. You’ll feel disappointed. You’ll feel deflated.
However, failure can also mean growth, change, and progress.
Failure is nothing but a lack of success. It is an attempt at something that was unsuccessful.
Failure is the prerequisite for success.
“Try again. Fail again. Fail better.” — Samuel Beckett, an Irish novelist
Failure is part of life. It’s part of how we learn and grow.
There are seven essential life lessons you can learn from failure. If you are willing to see them, you can learn many things from your failures.
1. You are Building Resiliency
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” — Thomas Edison, an American inventor and businessman
Failing can teach you mental resiliency and how to bounce back when things don’t go as planned. You’ll learn what it takes to get back on your feet after failing. You’ll learn how to get back up again and again.
Resiliency is about:
Viewing failures as lessons to be learned and as opportunities for growth
A solid commitment to your life, relationships, and goals
Focusing on things you have control over and not worrying about uncontrollable events
Not dwelling on your failures
Acknowledging the situation, learning from it, and then moving on.
It’s okay if you are not naturally resilient. Failure can help you develop a resilient mindset.
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” — Steve Maraboli, a speaker, author, and behavioral scientist
2. You are Trying
“I can accept failure. Everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” — Michael Jordan, an American businessman and former professional basketball player
When you fail, you are trying something. Trying is better than not trying at all. The only way you can fail at something is to try something. Failure teaches you what works and what doesn’t work.
The life lessons we learn from our mistakes are more significant than the information we read in a book or learn from someone else. Failure is part of being alive and being human.
3. You are Becoming More Humble
Failures will make you humble. If you don’t give failures too much power or too much credit, you will learn from them and improve in the future. Don’t turn disappointment into a self-fulfilling prophecy where you are constantly replaying failure in your mind.
Acknowledge your failures for what they are: learning experiences. Failure will help you be humble if you take the proper perspective. Don’t look at failure as a predictor for disappointment or success in the future. Take in the failure for what it is (no more or no less) and allow it to humble you.
4. You Learn What You Can Do
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone.” — Johnny Cash, an American country singer-songwriter
Failure will hurt. It’s not easy to overcome the hardship associated with failure. Failure will show you and others about your character. Don’t let negative self-talk hold you back.
Getting out of your comfort zone will not be comfortable. It may not be pleasant, but you will gain confidence to tackle failures head-on. Living life is hard, so they use failure to discover what you are capable of.
5. You Realize It’s All About Your Mindset
“The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure.” — John C. Maxwell, an author, coach, and speaker
Failure is all about how you frame it in your mind. Decide how you want to think about your failures. How you think about failures will determine how you respond to them.
How you mentally frame the failures in life is the key to achieving success in your life
Look at failures as learning opportunities. The truth is that you will fail more times than you will succeed in your life. It’s essential to put failures in perspective and reflect on them.
6. You Can’t Blame Others
Accountability for failure is critical. Responsibility can’t be shared with others, even if you want to avoid the blame for failing. Don’t make excuses for failures. They occurred, reflect about them, accept accountability, and move on.
Don’t dodge responsibility when failure happens. Admit to failures and mistakes, and don’t blame others. When you take the victim mentality and blame problems on someone else, you won’t be able to learn from them.
Correcting your mistakes is part of learning. You won’t learn your lesson from a failure if you don’t take responsibility. Learn from your mistakes to succeed with future opportunities.
7. You Are One Step Closer to Success
“We need to accept that we won’t always make the right decisions, that we’ll screw up royally sometimes — understanding that failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success.” — Arianna Huffington, a Greek-American author, syndicated columnist and businesswoman
If you haven’t taken a multiple-choice exam, you probably have eliminated answers that didn’t fit. You may have taken an educated guess between one or two answers instead of four.
Life is like this exam; you are closer to finding the correct answer when you fail. Failure helps you get one step closer to success. It enables you to get closer to the positive and successful outcome you want to achieve. Failure is a stepping stone to success.
Bringing It All Together
There are seven essential life lessons to learn from failure. You are building resiliency, trying, and becoming more humble. You learn what you can do, realize it’s all about your mindset, can’t blame others, and are one step closer to success.
Embrace failure fully and see each day as a new day to learn from your mistakes. Life is all about getting good at failing. You can’t succeed without failing sometimes.
“When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel.” — Eloise Ristad, an author
Contributed by Matthew Royse
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