You can choose to be happy
Secrets to a happy life
We all want to feel good, be happy, and truly enjoy our life every single day. However, this feeling of joy, satisfaction, and contentment is not easy to come by. At least, on most days.
Many people may find joy in buying material things, eating their favorite food, entertaining themselves, or hanging out with friends. But those things only provide a short-term pleasure, not long-term happiness.
Have you ever wondered why people spend their whole life pursuing happiness yet find it elusive?
Contrary to what you may expect, the answer to this complicated question is simple, plain easy. Happiness is not something you chase on the outside; the seeds of happiness are within you.
If you keep waiting for that special person, that particular job, that amount of bank balance, that sports car, that dream vacation or those many material possessions before you become happy, you’re wasting your precious time. Because that’s not going to happen anytime sooner. Or, let me put it bluntly: there’s not a chance of it happening in a thousand years.
To experience fulfillment and happiness in your life, all you have to do is to dig deeper and figure out what makes your life meaningful because that’s where real joy will come from.
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Here are four easy ways to bring more happiness into your life.
1. Focus on personal growth
You feel most happy when you do something meaningful for yourself. And what better than making efforts to learn new things, taking yourself to the next level and becoming a better person than you are.
Personal development not only builds your confidence but also helps you overcome many fears and apprehensions about yourself. An added bonus is that it deepens your self-belief and gives a massive boost to your self-worth.
However, there are no shortcuts or quick fixes for personal growth; you must put in the hours and work on yourself consistently.
Chalk out a systematic plan, beginning with identifying the critical areas of your life that need an overhaul. Understand what needs to be done and what should be taken up on a priority basis.
Gaining clarity and seeing the bigger picture will enable you to customize a plan that will serve as a guideline to improve your life. You will also be able to pinpoint the obstacles and challenges that might come along the self-improvement journey and thus keep yourself prepared to tackle them.
Life is not about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.
-G. B. Shaw
You are responsible for bringing out the best in you and tapping your full potential.
So if you want to better your life and experience lasting happiness, make a conscious choice and commit to personal growth. It will help bridge the gap between what you are now and your best version and make you immensely feel happy and content.
2. Give yourself the freedom to be yourself
It’s a natural human desire to act freely and express oneself. However, many people place themselves in shackles when they put too many restrictions on what they should be saying and how they should behave, all for fear of being judged by others.
Your life is all about you, and it’s essential to do things that make you happy without worrying about what others say.
Don’t underplay yourself, diminish yourself, fade your color or lessen your glow to make others feel comfortable or to please them.
Be true to yourself and take pride in expressing your authentic self. Allow yourself to be your own person, speak your mind, and make free choices aligned with your life goals and core values.
Having high regard for yourself and taking care of your liking and disliking is self-love. Nothing will give you more happiness than knowing you have the freedom and the liberty to breathe freely and do things you think are right for you.
It’s amazing how much more creative and productive you can be when you operate from the authentic space within, feel positive and live out your true self.
3. Be proud of your life journey
We’ve all had those moments when we’ve regretted our mistakes, cringed on our actions, beat ourselves for making wrong choices, and laughed at ourselves for making hasty decisions.
But the truth of life is that what is done is done. You are where you are. There’s no going back, undoing things, or making amends.
Ruminating about your past and feeling guilty or miserable about what you did or how you behaved will get you nowhere. It will only keep you stuck and prevent you from living a happy life.
Adopting a positive approach and turning around how you reflect on your life can make a huge difference in your life. Instead of reminding yourself of the past follies, run through your life thus far, seeing through a positive lens and highlight your accomplishments.
Remember the days when others wrote you off, but you believed in yourself and took the leap of faith. Jog your memory to the moments you found yourself surrounded by difficulties and how you successfully navigated through them. Relive the times when you stood tall facing challenges and aced them all. There are innumerable such instances that show your courage and inner strength.
Yes, you may have committed errors, taken missteps, and made lapses of judgments but you have realized and embraced your mistakes, learned valuable lessons from them, and are much wiser now. And that’s commendable.
You didn’t live a perfect life, but you did your best, and in the grand scheme of things, that’s the one thing which will matter the most. So be happy and proud of who you are, and celebrate the life you’ve lived thus far.
4. Add value to others
A large amount of happiness comes into your life when you connect with and bring forth the gentle, sensitive, and compassionate side of yourself.
It’s a known fact that those who have a genuine sense of serving others and derive joy by reaching out to others, especially in their hour of need, feel more fulfilled.
Helping others doesn’t always mean giving money or investing your valuable time. It’s the thought, the desire, and the willingness to add value to others and pay it forward that is important and will set the ball rolling for your happiness journey.
Give of yourself in whichever way possible, by doing a random act of kindness in the form of a helpful gesture, comforting words, patient listening, a piece of sage advice, valuable guidance, timely assistance, mentorship, or volunteering your services. The possibilities are endless.
Developing a mindset of serving others and taking time to help them will make you feel good and valuable. It will also go a long way in strengthening your relationships with others and help create a more kind and compassionate world.
The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others.
— Albert Schweitzer
Your happiness stems from you. Stop the mad chase of running after things and people who falsely promise to make you happy. Slow down and allow happiness to catch up with you.
Focus on the positive aspects of your life and the changes you can make to create more meaning and happiness in your life.
Real joy comes from living a worthwhile life. Your ability to see what can be and seizing opportunities to better your life will take you on the sure path to true happiness.
CONTRIBUTED BY Dr. Roopleen
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