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We all like to think weāre easy to get along with, right? But sometimes, our actions might send a different message.
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The tricky part is, weāre not always aware of how we come across to others. And letās be honest, it can be a bit of a shocker to realize that you might actually be a tough cookie to deal with.
But donāt worry. Psychology has got your back. It has identified some key signs that may suggest youāre more of a handful than you think.
Ready for some self-reflection? Here are eight signs that you might be a difficult person, according to psychology, and donāt worry, weāll navigate this together.
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1) Youāre always right
Ever heard the phrase, āItās my way or the highwayā? If that resonates with you, then you might be more difficult than you think.
Psychology tells us that people who are inflexible and insist on always being right can be pretty hard to deal with.
We all have opinions, sure. But the key is to understand that your way isnāt necessarily the only or the right way. Itās about being open to other perspectives, and willing to admit when youāre wrong.
The inability to do so can make you seem unapproachable, stubborn, and yes, difficult. So take a step back and question ā are you always insisting on having the last word?
2) You struggle to accept criticism
Ah, criticism. It can be tough to take, canāt it? I remember once when I was working on a big project at work. Iād poured my heart and soul into it and was pretty proud of what Iād achieved.
But when my boss called me in for a review, she had some constructive feedback. Instead of taking it on board, I found myself becoming defensive and justifying my decisions. It was an eye-opening moment for me.
Psychology suggests that if you find yourself getting defensive or upset when someone gives you feedback, then you might be a difficult person to deal with.
Accepting criticism graciously isnāt always easy, but itās a crucial part of personal growth. If we canāt accept feedback, how can we improve? So next time someone offers you advice or feedback, try to see it as an opportunity for growth rather than an attack.
3) Youāre a conversation hog
Did you know that on average, people spend 60% of conversations talking about themselves? This figure jumps to a whopping 80% when communicating via social media. And while itās natural to talk about our experiences and interests, dominating conversations can be a sign of being difficult.
If you find yourself consistently steering conversations back to yourself and your experiences, it might be time for a little self-reflection.
Remember, communication is a two-way street. Itās about listening as well as talking. If youāre always the one doing the talking, it can make others feel unheard and undervalued. So next time youāre in a conversation, try to catch yourself if you start to hog the limelight.
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4) Empathy isnāt your strong suit
Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Itās a crucial social skill that helps us form meaningful relationships. But if you find it hard to put yourself in someone elseās shoes, then you might be harder to get along with than you think.
A lack of empathy can make others feel like their feelings and experiences are being dismissed or ignored. It can also lead to misunderstandings and conflict.
So, if you often find yourself struggling to understand why people feel the way they do, or if you tend to dismiss other peopleās feelings as overreactions, it might be a sign that youāre a difficult person.
Remember, empathy doesnāt mean you have to agree with someone or change your own perspective. Itās about recognizing and validating their feelings, even if theyāre different from your own.
5) Youāre not a fan of change
Change is a part of life. Itās how we grow, evolve, and learn. But if the thought of change sends you into a tailspin, it could be a sign that youāre a difficult person to be around.
Being resistant to change can cause tension in relationships and can even hold you back in life. It can make you seem rigid, inflexible, and can limit your opportunities.
Embracing change isnāt always easy. It can be scary and uncomfortable. But itās also where the magic happens. Itās where we learn new things about ourselves and the world around us.
So if the idea of change makes you uncomfortable, it may be time to push past your comfort zone. You might discover that the other side is more beautiful than you ever imagined.
6) You hold grudges
There was a time when I held onto a grudge for years. A friend had hurt me deeply, and I just couldnāt let it go. Every time I saw them, that old wound would open up again, and it was like reliving the pain all over again.
Holding grudges, as I learned, can make you a difficult person to be around. It can prevent you from moving forward and can keep you stuck in the past. Plus, it puts a strain on your relationships.
Forgiveness doesnāt mean forgetting what happened or letting someone off the hook. Itās more about freeing yourself from the burden of resentment and anger. Itās about choosing to let go and move forward, for your own peace of mind.
So if you find yourself holding onto grudges, it might be worth considering whether theyāre serving you or holding you back.
7) Your mood swings are unpredictable
We all have our off days. But if your moods are constantly swinging from one extreme to another, it can be hard for those around you to keep up.
Unpredictable mood swings can make interactions with you feel like walking on eggshells. People may find themselves constantly trying to appease you or avoid setting you off, which can be exhausting.
Remember, itās normal to experience a range of emotions. But when they start affecting your relationships and interactions with others, it might be a sign that youāre a difficult person.
If you recognize this in yourself, it could be worth taking some time to explore whatās causing these mood swings and finding healthier ways to manage your emotions.
8) You donāt respect boundaries
Boundaries are crucial for healthy relationships. They help us to understand where we end and another person begins. If you find yourself frequently overstepping or ignoring other peopleās boundaries, itās a strong indication that you might be a difficult person.
Respecting boundaries means acknowledging and honoring the personal limits others set. Itās about understanding that just because youāre comfortable with something, doesnāt mean everyone else is.
If you often find yourself pushing peopleās boundaries, it might be time to take a step back and reassess. Remember, respect for others is a fundamental part of being easy to get along with.
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Final thoughts: Itās about personal growth
At the heart of psychology lies the understanding that our behaviors and attitudes are deeply intertwined with our mental processes.
If youāve identified with some of these signs, it might be a wake-up call for introspection. Remember, acknowledging our weaknesses is not a sign of defeat, but rather a step towards personal growth.
Carl Jung, a pioneer in psychology, once said, āThe most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.ā Yet, itās in this acceptance that we find the courage to change and grow.
So if you find that youāre a difficult person, donāt despair. Instead, view it as an opportunity for self-improvement. The journey towards becoming an easier person to deal with starts with self-awareness and ends with embracing change.
After all, we are all works in progress.
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Contributed by Eliza Hartley
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