1 Nothing Worth Having Comes Easy.

Everything that is worth anything is hard; we know that.

We know that we have to work for it, that we have to grind for the things we want, and that we have to struggle to get a better life.

But do what does that actually mean?

Having a fit body, for instance, is hard. It’s hard because you have to go to the gym, workout, eat right, and make your entire day about your health.

In theory we understand this but we do not understand that this changes everything.

From the minute you wake up to the minute you go to bed your thoughts will be surrounding food, exercise and fighting the urge to break either.

It means we have to buy better food, make the food, prepare it in advance, plan the meals, workouts, and count the calories, fats, proteins and everything else, while staying consistent no matter how crappy the weather or what part of the body hurts, spending the time every day to go to the gym and coming back, and then, on top of it all, we still have to work up a sweat every time we go to the gym.

It is hard not because of the one time we hit the gym but because of the complete and permanent change to our lifestyle that commitment involves.

Being fit is hard because it changes everything but the same is true for any change worth having.

Having a solid relationship is hard, because we have to spend time with our partner consistently, have find out places to go, spend effort being loving and caring and have to do our best to see everything through with them while learning about them, improving ourselves, and having some tough, but necessary, conversations that may end up with things we did not want to see.

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Relationships are hard because we have to spend courage, time and energy not to find the “right” person but to work with them on creating the right relationship.

Which means constant battles, compromises, figuring each other out and the confrontations between the romantic moments.

We have to give when we do not want to, have to stand up for ourselves in the face of confrontations, have to fight for what we want, fight for what our partner wants, and fight for what is best for the relationship even when neither wants to do it.

Relationships are hard not because of the one time we go out to find our “happily ever after” but because of every single day that we have to live through on the way there.

Being in an amazing relationship is hard because it also changes everything in our day.

The same is true for our career, our own success, and everything else worth anything; it all changes everything about our life and requires our full commitment.

Anything we try to adopt will challenge our entire life as we have lived it up until that moment, and that is what makes it hard.

Many of us try to just work hard once and be done with it, be that on their body, relationship or career.

We hit the gym hard for a while, go hard into the dating scene, try our best in our relationships a few days out of the year, work on our own self-improvement for a little while and try harder in our career at least until that promotion.

But that is not enough. That is exactly where the hard part starts, and what makes so few break through to get the things worth having.

2 What Matters Is How Often You Stand, Not How Often You Fall.

What matters are the hits you get in, not the hits you have received.

Success is measured by the wins, and the wins alone, but the losses will drastically surmount the wins every time.

This means that it is not about being perfectly consistent in your habits, for nobody cares if you only spent 287 days at the gym this year rather than the full 365; what matters are the 287 days that you went.

What matters is every win, every time you went, every time you even tried.

That, in large, will get you fit.

In the same way it doesn’t matter how many times you didn’t go out on a Friday evening, but how many times you did.

It doesn’t matter how many jobs you’ve had, how many posts you missed, or how many times you forgot to brush your teeth.

Remember that every bit of effort counts no matter how small.

Sometimes you fall harder, fail harder, and get beaten harder, but what matters most is how you get back up and what you do when you get back up.

If you do not feel like going to the gym today then do some jumping jacks. If you cannot do that, do a short walk. If you cannot do that then stretch some more.

Do what you can.

Do not stay stuck on the failures along the way, for every day you regret not doing anything will be another day where you do nothing.

Instead it is better to take the hit, to understand that you lost, and to try to get one more win in today.

The positives will stack up if you let them, but you must remain focused on finding those positives.

Stop looking at bygone opportunities and see how you can still win now with whatever you have; even if it is but a tiny victory.

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3 One Choice Can Change Everything.

One choice to make a change now can do everything to snowball your life into a better direction.

It doesn’t matter how big the choice is for anything can become your catalyst.

Out of dozens of movies, books, businesses, posts, videos, paintings, or ideas, it only takes one for someone to succeed.

It is the same for the choices we make in life.

Going to the gym today may not become your catalyst; it may just be another day.

But there will be one day that pushes you over the edge, one day that can make it a habit and a ritual rather than a conscious choice, or one day that makes you fall in love with exercising.

This is true in our relationships, for it only takes one choice to make a difference or to fall in love again, and it is the same for our life in large as well.

Your life is always at the precipice of success and failure, walking at the edge like an acrobat on a tight rope, and it only takes one choice to push you into darkness or into a life you always dreamed of.

That one choice can start today.

It is that one choice that you make for yourself to push a little harder today that can make you believe in yourself again, that one choice that you decide you haven’t given up just yet, or that one choice to do what you find scary that changes everything.

But it will not happen if you wait.

If you wait on the edge of that cliff for someone to push you off in the right direction you will wait forever.

You must take the courage to leap off yourself.

It will never not be scary, and you may make a jump off the wrong side, but when you land you will just be on another precipice, with success still just a leap away.

Keep leaping off time and time again with we keep relying on the world to change life for us, nothing will change.

Contributed by Lukas Schwekendiek

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