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Even though I don’t know you personally, I know that you deserve a happy, successful, and abundant life.
I know you’re trying hard, giving your best, and moving on despite difficulties.
I know you feel weak sometimes, yet, you still don’t give up.
I know you think about others and prioritize their needs instead of taking care of yourself.
And I know that life sometimes feels hard.
Unfortunately, I don’t have a magic wand to instantly fix all your problems. Yet, I do have a few pieces of advice that might make it a lot easier to deal with this crazy thing called life.
Turn “I can’t do this because” into “I’ll do this even though”
One of the easiest things to do in life is finding excuses.
I can’t exercise because I have too much to do.
I can’t follow a healthy diet/lose weight because I’m too busy.
I can’t start my own business because other people already do what I want to do.
I can’t write a book because I don’t know how.
Does any of that sound familiar?
Here’s the ultimate life hack: Every time you want to say ”I can’t do xyz because….” say “I’ll do xyz even though”
I’ll exercise even though I have lots to do.
I’ll follow a healthy diet even though I’m busy.
I’ll start my own business even though I’m not the first one.
I’ll write a book even though I don’t know how.
Next, add one more layer by saying how you’ll do it:
I’ll stick to a healthy diet by following a meal plan and preparing most of my meals at home.
I’ll write a book by taking it one step at a time and asking experts for help.
Here’s a harsh truth about life: You’ll never run out of excuses, but one day, you’ll run out of time.
Taking imperfect action is always better than waiting for “the perfect moment” to start.
Ditch your excuses and do the things you know you should be doing.
Use each failure as a stepping stone.
I used to be afraid of failure. I always thought, “If I fail at this once, I’ll never try it again because it’ll be so embarrassing!”
But I was wrong.
The truth is, failure is a vital part of success.
You don’t fail or succeed. First, you fail. Then, you succeed.
If you manage to look at failure as a stepping stone instead of an obstacle, life suddenly becomes so much easier.
According to former Apple and NASA engineer Mark Rober, we should reframe our learning processes and turn our journey to success into a game.
When we play games, we usually don’t fear failure because we’re so excited about learning more about how not to lose.
And if we lose, we don’t get mad at the game and stop playing. Instead, we just try again. And again. And again.
Become the most patient person you know
Most people could easily achieve their goals if they were patient enough.
Whether it’s losing weight, running a successful business, or building healthy relationships — all these things take time.
Yet, we’re so used to instant gratification that we usually want quick results.
We work on our goals for a few days and feel frustrated if we don’t experience changes. And if we’re honest, we know this is ridiculous.
“Learning patience can be a difficult experience, but once conquered you will find life is easier.”
— Cathrine Pulsifer
Always protect your mornings + evenings.
Your morning usually dictates your day and your evening dictates your morning.
If you spend your evening browsing through uninspiring social media feeds, eating unhealthy foods, and having arguments with your partner, you’ll likely face poor sleep.
As a result, you’ll wake up feeling exhausted, tired, unmotivated, and maybe even a little angry.
You’ll lack energy, waste time, and grab your first big cup of coffee before doing anything else.
You’ll forget things, spread negative energy, and don’t get much done until noon.
And when the evening hits, the same cycle will start again.
Sounds horrible, right?
That’s why you want to be careful about how you spend the first and last few hours of your day.
Be intentional. Take care of yourself. Take time away from your devices. Do things that make you feel good. Nourish your soul. And make sure you can detach and get a good night’s sleep.
Spend less time gathering information and more time making sense of it
We’re all drowning in information.
We have access to infinite newsfeeds, can read more books than ever before, and could easily spend a lifetime discovering interesting Youtube videos.
Yet, we fail at making sense of all this information.
We read self-help books yet, fail to apply what we read and continue to feel miserable.
We hit “like” on inspirational posts on how to lead better relationships yet fail to apply what we’ve learned when facing challenges.
The more information we have, the harder it is to make use of it.
So here’s what to do: Become an “information minimalist.”
Be careful about the content you consume. Only follow a few people on social media and instead of scrolling through news feeds for hours, spend more time thinking about how to actually apply what you’ve learned.
After reading this article, don’t just move on to the next one. Instead, pause and think of how you could actually make use of the information.
Rely on the power of less
We’re living in a time where most people want more.
They want more money, more respect, more friends, more likes, more choices — just more of anything.
Yet, more isn’t always better.
In fact, less is more.
Owning fewer clothes makes it easier to decide what to wear.
Having a few close friends allows you to build deep connections.
Fewer goals can lead to more accomplishment.
Get rid of all the things that distract you and focus on the few things that make a difference in your life.
Instead of aiming for “more,” focus on less.
Don’t confuse happiness with smiles.
Did you ever look at someone’s fancy photos on social media and admire their good-looking life?
If you did, it probably made you feel miserable and unmotivated. Instead of getting up and working on accomplishing your own goals, you got sucked in and spent more and more time looking at similar photos and videos.
The problem is, we often confuse genuine happiness with fake smiles.
Social media is fake. Period.
Even those who’re uploading videos of themselves crying and sharing “the truth” are hiding the whole truth.
To live a happier life, you need to let go of society’s expectations of a “good life” and instead focus on your own expectations.
What are the things that make you happy?
When do you feel excited, energized, or at peace?
For me, preparing a cup of coffee and enjoying it on my balcony is one of the most peaceful activities ever.
It’s not exciting or productive. It’s just calm. It makes me feel alive, present, and centered.
Do more of the things that make you feel that way. Whether that’s a weird hobby, a side project you deeply care about, or a courageous decision you’ve been patiently waiting for.
Read also: 10 easy habits that make you feel amazing
Life can be weird.
So many people want to “succeed,” yet most aren’t willing to go the extra mile.
So many people want to “make a change” but aren’t willing to do things differently.
And the truth is, most great things aren’t easy to get anyway. But at the same time, we don’t need those big accomplishments to lead a happy life.
All we need is peace of mind, a healthy body, and a few people we genuinely care about.
CONTRIBUTED BY Sinem Günel
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