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Apologizing too often can actually diminish your self-esteem and confidence.
Psychology suggests that there are certain things you donāt need to apologize for. And believe me, realizing this can be a game changer.
Here, Iāve compiled 10 things you donāt owe anyone an apology for.
Letās dive in and explore them together.
1) Saying no
Psychology emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries. Itās essential for maintaining mental health and self-esteem.
But saying no can sometimes feel like youāre letting someone down. It can feel like youāre being selfish. And often, we apologize for it. But should we?
Itās important to remember that āNoā is a complete sentence.
Itās okay to say no when you feel overwhelmed, when something doesnāt align with your values, or simply when you donāt want to do something. And thereās no need to apologize for it.
Saying no doesnāt make you a bad person. It makes you a self-aware and assertive individual. So stop saying sorry for standing up for yourself and your needs.
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2) Your personal choices
I remember a time when I chose a different career path than what my family had envisioned for me. I felt guilty for not meeting their expectations and found myself constantly apologizing.
But was I wrong? According to psychology ā not at all.
Our personal choices, such as careers, relationships, hobbies or lifestyle, are just that ā personal. Theyāre about us, not others.
Famed psychologist Carl Jung once said, āThe privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.ā It was then I realized, I donāt owe anyone an apology for choosing a path that makes me feel fulfilled.
Your personal choices are yours to make and you do not need to apologize for making them, even if they differ from other peopleās expectations.
3) Your past mistakes
We all have a past. And letās be brutally honest here, weāve all messed up at some point.
But constantly apologizing for past mistakes that youāve already made amends for is like being in a hamster wheel. Itās exhausting and gets you nowhere.
Famed psychologist Sigmund Freud once said, āOne day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.ā Looking back, your mistakes are not something to apologize for but to learn from.
Itās not about forgetting your past, itās about forgiving yourself and moving forward. Donāt apologize for being human and making mistakes. Instead, embrace them as part of your growth process.
4) Your feelings
There was a time when I would say sorry for being too emotional or too passionate. But then, I realized that my feelings are valid and they make me who I am.
We all feel. We all have emotions. And thereās no need to apologize for them.
Psychologist and author Dr. BrenĆ© Brown once said, āVulnerability is not winning or losing; itās having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome.ā
Letās stop apologizing for our feelings, whether itās anger, sadness, joy, or love. These emotions are part of the human experience, and they deserve to be acknowledged, not apologized for.
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5) Prioritizing self-care
It may seem counterintuitive, but taking care of yourself first is not selfish. In fact, itās necessary for your mental and physical wellbeing.
There was a time when I felt guilty for taking a day off or spending time on my hobbies. But then, I realized that self-care is not a luxury; itās a necessity.
As psychologist Abraham Maslow pointed out, āIt isnāt normal to know what we want. It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement.ā Recognizing the importance of self-care and making it a priority is one such achievement.
When you decide to prioritize your self-care, remember you donāt owe anyone an apology for doing so. Taking care of yourself allows you to better care for others, so thereās no need for guilt or apologies.
6) Your success
Never apologize for your achievements or success. Celebrate them. Youāve worked hard and you deserve it.
Success is not something that you get, itās something that you attract by the person you become.
Your success is a testament to your efforts, perseverance, and choices. You donāt owe anyone an apology for it. Instead of apologizing, share your journey and inspire others to reach their own success.
7) Your body
Growing up, I would often find myself apologizing for not fitting into societyās beauty standards. But then, I realized that body shaming oneself is not healthy.
Your body is yours and itās the only one youāll ever have. As psychologist Carl Rogers once said, āThe curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.ā
Letās not apologize for our bodies. Every body is different and beautiful in its own unique way. Love it, cherish it, and above all, never apologize for it.
8) Ending toxic relationships
Letās get real here. Walking away from a toxic relationship is tough. Itās painful. But sometimes, itās necessary for our mental and emotional health.
And guess what? You donāt owe anyone an apology for choosing your peace of mind over a destructive relationship.
Psychologist Albert Ellis once said, āThe best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.ā
If youāve had to end a toxic relationship, donāt apologize. Youāve made a brave decision to prioritize your wellbeing. Instead of feeling guilty, embrace the strength it took to walk away.
9) Not knowing everything
It may sound counterintuitive, but not knowing everything is not a weakness. Itās a sign of being open to learning and growing.
We often apologize for not knowing something, as if itās something to be ashamed of. But psychologist Carl Jung once said, āThe most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.ā And that includes accepting our lack of knowledge in certain areas.
When you donāt know something, donāt apologize. Instead, see it as an opportunity to learn something new. After all, nobody knows everything!Ā
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10) Being true to yourself
Growing up, I often found myself apologizing for being ādifferentā. But then, I realized that thereās nothing wrong with being unique or standing out from the crowd.
Staying true to yourself, your values, and your beliefs is something you should never apologize for. As psychologist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl once said, āEverything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedomsāto choose oneās attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose oneās own way.āĀ
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Contributed By Lachlan BrownĀ
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