Donāt let words cast negative spells over you
Warning: this entire post will trigger you.
If youāre easily offended, you have two options here:
Be brave. Read through this post to build some mental resilience by stomaching some words that might be true, but will also sting
Stop reading now. Seriously, Iāll probably hurt your feelings
If youāre ready for tough love, keep reading.
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Remove these phrases from your vocabulary asap.
Life Got in the Way
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No, it didnāt.
You simply chose to prioritize some tasks over others, which is fine.
But donāt lie.
The tasks that would make a real difference in your life always seem to fall by the wayside, donāt they? Life never seems to get in the way of Netflix, going out to eat, or having drinks with friends, does it?
Life always seems to get in the way of working out, building your side project, or doing any sort of task that requires delayed gratification.
Funny how that works.
Life is always going to have random elements and variables involved. Youāre never going to stop being busy.
Youāre going to need to find balance in chaos.
Frontload the process. Anticipate the fact that life will try to get in the way. Donāt let it.
Life Threw a Curveball At Me
Imagine this.
Youāre a major league baseball player. Youāve been on a major hitting slump. Every single time you step up to the plate, you strike out.
Your coach asks you whatās going on.
You tell him that youāre struggling to hit because the pitchers started throwing curveballs.
When the ball comes straight down the middle in the perfect spot of your strike zone, you can hit it. But, if the pitcher tries to trick you in even the slightest way, you canāt hit the ball.
Catching the analogy?
Youāre subconsciously telling yourself that you have zero ability to adapt. If you canāt hit curveballs in life, good luck trying to achieve anything of consequence.
Focus on becoming a better hitter. As a business owner, I know for a fact some bullshit is coming my way every single day. As the business grows, it just gets more challenging.
Instead of worrying about what life will throw my way, I put myself through mental batting practice by constantly reminding myself that it doesnāt matter what comes my way. Iāll be able to handle it.
The Man Is Out to Get Me
This one isnāt so much a specific phrase, but a way people talk about how society is just trying to hold them down.
They blame all of their problems on:
Racism
Misogyny
The patriarchy
Billionaires
Homophobia/transphobia
The right
The left
Of course forces of oppression exist.
But what does the patriarchy or racism have to do with you skipping out on your side project to watch T.V.? Are billionaires keeping you from going to the gym or starting your business?
The excuses are becoming less and less relevant with the advent of the internet.
You can run an entirely faceless brand online without anyone ever knowing who you are or what you look like. There are anonymous writers who make six figures.
I was the top-earning writer on Medium for six-months straight. How could that be when racism is a death sentence to the futures of black people?
Itās tiresome and condescending.
How Can I Focus Whenā¦?
Piggybacking off this thought, thereās another set of phrases floating around and making it seem like you canāt get any work done because the world is a dangerous, scary, and chaotic place.
People went to work and raised families during the bubonic plague, the french revolution, the world wars, you name it. But you canāt go to your air-conditioned office because of a war thatās not even being fought on your turf?
Ok.
When people share some salacious news on my timeline I just mute them. I understand that this ācaring about the worldā ethos doesnāt come from a good place.
Iām reminded of this quote:
What do the protestors want? Can they articulate it meaningfully, not in platitudes or āpeople over profitsā or āmore fair income redistributionā soundbites? They canāt tell you because they donāt know. They can, however, yell at you what they donāt like, and the louder they yell it the more they hear it themselves. Nothing is expected to be accomplished, it is all for branding. ā The Last Psychiatrist
There are a bunch of horrible things going on in the world you have no clue about because no one told you to care about them. Treat the ones the news spews at you the same way. Make them invisible.
Go to work.
I Just Canātā¦
Thereās a new set of phrases floating around that literally cause fatigue:
Iām drained
I am on the verge of a mental breakdown
Iām exhausted
Maybe you are. I donāt know you.
But Iām guessing your situation might not be as bad as you think it is.
Do you work in a coal mine?
Again, youāre drained from working in an air-conditioned office, or Caribou coffee, or hell even something like a factory?
I used to work at a factory. It was draining, but more so because it was just boring and monotonous instead of life or death.
What Iām about to say will likely get me canceled but here goes:
The over-emphasis on mental health has been the single biggest factor in the dramatic drop in the quality of our mental health.
Mental health is important. You should monitor it. But this constant, incessant, obsessive, compulsive, neurotic, monitoring of your mental and emotional state is fucking up your life.
There is a time and place for resting and re-charging. Thereās also a time and place for purposefully putting yourself through stress, working when youāre tired, pushing yourself, and seeing what youāre made of.
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Final Thoughts
āThereās no mass propaganda telling you to be strong.ā
You want out of this strange and twisted world built by āthe narrative.ā
You want to be free and rely on yourself. Nobody wants to feel helpless. But itās easy to slip into the hypnotic rhythm of self-pity and lack of responsibility.
These societal overlords of ours are cunning.
You have to fight the mental war on all fronts. You have the media, the government, and your peers, friends, and family even spouting some iteration of this nonsense in your direction.
Fight through the pain of mental warfare to gain true freedom.
Ayodeji is the author of Real Help: An Honest Guide to Self-Improvement
CONTRIBUTED BY AYODEJI AWOSIKA
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