7 Habits That Build Your Life.


7 Habits That Build Your Life

They are free, simple, and so rare.


Photo by Laura Olsen on Unsplash
Whenever you want to build something big, you need to start small.

Society has glamorized great leaps and monumental gains. It gets tricky to stay focused on ourselves, when comparing ourselves to the achievements of others.

Learn More

Yet, there are simple daily habits to boost your happiness and add value to your life.

Small changes lead to the biggest breakthroughs.

These are rituals to practice daily and change your life for the better:

Appreciate people who are there for you.

Everyone wants to be seen and appreciated. Give them your attention. It is free, simple, and rare.

How to make others feel empowered in your presence? By making them feel welcomed and appreciated, you create an unforgettable experience they will want to repeat more often. The impact of how you make people feel stays with them long after the meeting.

Look into their eyes. It is a powerful way to show somebody that you care and treat them equal.

Listen with interest. Take mental notes. It helps you to create a deep connection.

It is not a grand gesture to shower somebody with gifts when you neglect their time and attention. Giving them your space and time will show your commitment.

The greatest gift you can give another is the purity of your attention.

— Richard Moss
Once you make people feel noticed and heard, not only will they be drawn to you. When you make them feel seen, you inspire them. That kind of energy is magnetic.

Mind your self-talk.

Your internal dialogue determines your action. What you believe is possible builds your determination.

Your self-concept is your self-image — what you feel and believe about yourself on a subconscious level. Those are dominant expectations and assumptions about your life, especially in stressful situations.

When you have a goal for what you want to achieve, make sure that your self-concept is aligned with beliefs that support your purpose.

For example, I deserve success. I am confident. I always get what I work for. I accept myself.

Affirmations change your life. They are supposed to be brief and straightforward. The mind thrives on simplicity.

Mindset makes or breaks you. It either stands in the way of going after your dreams or cheers you along the way.

You will always act in alignment with how you think about yourself.

To set a new mindset, you have to disentangle yourself from whom you have been and your old beliefs that have created the present state.

Like yourself.

Authenticity, despite the pressure to conform, is a hallmark of self-awareness. When you invest in yourself, you stop chasing external validation. This statement rings true:

If outside validation is your only source of nourishment, you will hunger for the rest of your life.
Print your own emotional money instead of chasing after the payoff in the shape of validation, gratification, and the high of likes.

Working on your self-concept is your biggest investment.

It is easy to get external validation. It is impossible to built happiness upon it.

Authentic life makes for a simple life. No games of pretending. No cover-ups. No thinking your way into making others like you. You are at peace if they don’t.

Getting comfortable with yourself, changes your life. Once you learn how to tune into your needs and feelings, you seldom look for confirmation of your value from others.

Invest in doing things that scare you.

I am not talking about jumping off the plane first thing in the morning.

I am talking about things that make you uneasy, things you shy away from.

Do you feel uncomfortable starting a conversation with a stranger? Talk to somebody next time you are at a coffee shop alone. At least, look them in the eyes and give them a sincere smile.

Do you feel uncomfortable at family gatherings because your father has a strong opinion about your life? Next time, speak up. Don’t argue. Make a point and ask him to respect that. And then feel proud for your voice.

When you question your fears, you discover a great deal about yourself.

You might find out that the reason for not starting a new project was fear of failure. We all have been programmed to strive for perfection. It is time to break the chains of old habits.

When you acknowledge what scares you the most, you discover the courage to face your fears and take steps to overcome them. Your mind will get used to making the uncomfortable familiar, and it is the most valuable leap towards growth.

Give compliments and accept them.

We chase validation, but when met with one, we don’t know how to respond.

Start praising others instead of criticizing in the shadow of your mind.

When you give thanks, it will magnify good things in your life. Compliments are one of the easiest two-way streets to spread happiness around and increase your own. The more you compliment, the better you feel.

Go one step further and start accepting compliments from others. Say thank you and mean it. Praise yourself in the mirror. Greet the day saying ‘thank you’ for being alive. Celebrate how awesome you are.

When you give praise, you do so because you feel good about yourself. When you criticize, it is because you hate your life. Happy people don’t shame others.

To change your life, you need to start with yourself instead of picking up blames around you. You are responsible for your creation.

Make your life attractive to you.

Start your day slowly and mindfully. Breath. Meditate. Say a gratitude prayer.

Eat better. Exercise the way you like it, not the way a fitness guru wants you to. Say ‘no’ because you feel like it. We should never feel guilty for being our greatest cheerleader. Get the sleep you deserve. Committing to yourself boosts your self-esteem and determination.

Self-care comes with self-discipline. How you do one thing affects all other areas of your life.

When you commit to working on yourself every day, you also show the world how to treat you.

Go the extra mile.

Every time you do something, ask if there is 1% more you can give? Just 1%.

What you put out is what you give back. When you give your best to small things, it leaks into other areas of your life.

When you make yourself a tea, can you offer it to somebody else?

When you take your trash outside, can you offer to take someone else’s as well?

When you walk home, can you offer to take your older neighbour’s shopping as well?

It is not that you are busy. You fail to make time for small acts of kindness. You have messed up your priorities. It is time to set them back on track.
These habits are not over the top ideas. They are small mind hacks that should be with us every day.

Feeling of gratitude
Observing inner dialogue
Appreciating yourself
Stepping out of your comfort zone
Praise and accept the praise
Invest in your life
Adopt a new mantra: go the extra mile
You are one step from a better life. You decide which turn you take by nurturing daily habits that either build your life or break it.

The power lies in you and how you see the world.

Wishing you all the best
— Katarzyna.

CONTRIBUTED BY Katarzyna Portka

Read More: 5 Habits of Highly Focused People

Read More: 19 Super Tiny Rules to Upgrade Your Life

We do everything possible to supply quality information for readers day in, day out and we are committed to keep doing this. Your kind donation will help our continuous research efforts.


Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here