3 Skills That Are a Superpower In Today’s Confused World
“You don’t have to be good at many things, you have to be exceptional at just a few things.”
Today, people are confused more than ever.
Even though there’s an abundance of information and an overload of opinions, there’s a lack of true wisdom.
The internet is filled with conflicting self-help advice, wrong expectations about what it takes to succeed, and people pretending to be who they’re not.
No wonder people are confused.
Let’s look at three skills that, if you develop them, help you stay focused and grounded in today’s confusing environment.
Stop Comparing — Start Learning
I was recently on a live stream for her new course, where someone asked me the question, ‘What do you do when others are doing better than you?’
I thought it was a fascinating question, as now more than ever, people compare themselves with others. My response was that there will always be someone doing better than you, so it’s pointless to compare yourself.
No matter how great you’re doing, there’s a 99.9% chance there’s at least someone doing it better. There’s always someone who’s making more money, getting more views, scoring more points, etc. Therefore, it’s wasted energy to compare yourself to others.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
Instead of comparing yourself to others and feeling bad about the fact that they’re doing better, start learning from those who are doing better than you. This different perspective is a game-changer.
For example, , , and are all doing better than me on Medium. Do I feel bad about that? No, I’m super happy for them. They worked their ass off. They deserve their success.
Instead, I look at these top performers and ask the following questions:
What are they doing that I don’t?
What can I learn from them so that I can improve?
How do they inspire me to become better?
Especially with everyone posting their highlight-reel on social media, it’s easy to get stuck in comparison mode and feel bad about the fact that others are doing better. But comparing yourself to others won’t get you any further in life.
Stop comparing yourself to others and start learning from others. Start getting inspired by those who are doing better. It changes everything.
Flexible Approach — Fixed Goals
Today, social media influencers make ambitious goals seem easy to accomplish (eg. starting a business, getting sixpack abs, making money in crypto), which shapes the wrong expectation about what it takes to succeed.
Now more than ever, people give up too quickly on their goals because they started with the wrong expectations about what’s necessary to succeed.
“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.” — Tony Robbins
Truth is, you should expect your first approaches and attempts to fail. It’s rare that someone succeeds at anything big in their first attempt. Don’t let some guru sell you the idea that it’s ‘easy’ or ‘quick’. It hardly ever is.
Failure is part of the process when you strive for ambitious goals. Each failure is a stepping stone to success, as it contains valuable lessons, insights, and experience.
Instead of giving up on your goals at the first setback, be willing to change your approach as often as necessary. As the Chinese philosopher Confucius said, “When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.”
These days, most people confuse a failed approach with a failed goal. It’s not the same thing. When one strategy doesn’t work, try another. Don’t let a failed strategy lead to a failed goal.
For example, if your goal is to make a full-time income on the internet, you need to be willing to try out many different business models.
If the first money-making attempt doesn’t work, don’t give up on the overall goal, but change your approach until you find a method that does work.
This mindset is essential if you want to succeed at anything.
Double Down On Your Natural Strengths
Nowadays, there’s a lot of focus on trying to fix your weaknesses. But what if instead of trying to fix your weaknesses, you invest all that effort into doubling down on your natural strengths?
You’ll get far better results taking your natural strengths from a 7/10 to a 9/10 than trying to lift your weaknesses from a 4/10 to maybe a 6.5/10. It’s much more valuable to master one or two things rather than being mediocre at many things.
You don’t get paid a lot for being a 6.5/10 at something — you get paid a lot for being a 9/10 in your area of expertise.
This doesn’t mean you should stop developing yourself or learn other skills — it means you stay within your area of competence and completely dominate that playing field. That’s how you become a top performer.
For example, did Cristiano Ronaldo or Lionel Messi put any effort into becoming better defenders? No, they doubled down on their attacking abilities.
Did Warren Buffett put any effort into becoming a better daytrader? No, he doubled down on his value investing skills.
The lesson here is that you don’t have to be good at many things, you have to be exceptional at just a few things.
Fixing your weaknesses costs you reaching mastery in the areas of your natural strength.
Besides, there are valuable opportunity costs involved. The more time and effort you spend trying to fix your weaknesses, the less you have available to further develop your natural strengths.
All in all, double down on your natural strengths instead of trying to fix all of your weaknesses. It will lead to far better results.
CONTRIBUTED BY Jari Roomer
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