6 Habits of Effortlessly Cool People (I really love #6)


6 Habits of Effortlessly Cool People (I really love #6)

You light up the tension using humor.


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“Normal is not something to aspire to, it’s something to get away from.” ~ Jodie Foster.

Everyone has a different view of what makes someone cool.

For some, it means you’re the popular guy in school and for others, it means the one who smokes while listening to rock, especially if you’ve seen many teenage movies about it.

Maybe you always wanted to be a cool person.

But you don’t have to look cool to be cool. Being cool is about your mindset and personality. It’s what you say and does that makes you instantly likable.

I think of Will Smith because he seems to be such a nice guy to hang around and people find him really cool. I think he is a good example in this topic.

We, as humans become interested in someone because they carry some habits which make us hooked on them and it’s hard to let go of them.

I have a different perception of what it means to be cool.

This is what I think.

1. You Are a Very Unique Human.

There is indeed something very special and unique about you that makes you stand out from the rest of the crowd.

People will find you very interesting because you have a unique taste, unlike other people.

When you are unique, you become a more memorable person.

It’s easier for people to remember who you are because you’re different from other people in a positive way.

It’s better to be unique and stand out than trying to shrink yourself in a crowd of people who don’t care about you anyway.

I love Oscar Wilde’s quote, “Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”

I mean, maybe you take care of bees on the weekend, and who spends their weekend on that? How cool is that? It’s nerdy but cool.

On the serious part, I’m terrified of them.

How to apply.

Never be afraid to be weird.
Be yourself, that’s what makes you unique.
Stop caring what people think about your interests.
Quote of the Topic.

“In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.” ~ Coco Chanel.

2. You Can Talk About Anything In The World.

It’s as if the two of you can sit on the roof with a glass of wine and talk about anything.

We all crave human connection with someone special whether it’s a friend or a lover and feeling a connection with someone special is rare.

You’re able to ask questions and gain a sense of how the other person sees the world as you learn something from it.

Verywellmind.com explained being open-minded by saying this, “It also encompasses the belief that other people should be free to express their beliefs and arguments, even if you do not necessarily agree with those views.

You’re someone who isn’t afraid to talk about anything, doesn’t dislike people based on their beliefs and arguments? Now that will make people find you a little bit more interesting and cool.

Why? Most people are afraid of deep topics with an open mind because they find comfort in “small talk” and not in the “deep talk” with a curious mind.

I guess most are afraid of deep talk just like they are afraid of the deep water?

How to apply.

Ask more into their lives.
Understand their different viewpoint.
Listen to what people have to say before talking.
Quote of the Topic.

“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.” ~ Ernest Hemingway.

3. You Are Keeping Your “Cool”

When situations get heated and stressful, you remain cool and find a way to fix the problem instead of panicking with fear.

If you stay zen during hectic moments, then you have mastered the art of relaxation.

The benefit of staying “cool” during heated moments is that you will handle the next similar problem better than before.

You always stop being in a hurry and enjoy the journey of learning something challenging in a heated moment.

Keeping your cool during heated moments makes you cool because it shows that you have control over the situation while everyone is losing their mind.

How cool is it to have control over the situation?

It makes you feel like you can conquer anything in the world.

How to apply.

Take a deep breath.
Look at solutions to the problem.
Ask yourself, “How can I solve this?”
Quote of the Topic.

“Your problem isn’t the problem, it’s your attitude about the problem.” ~ Ann Brashares.

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4. You Light Up The Tension Using Humor.

Maybe you did something embarrassing and you make a joke out of yourself because you don’t take yourself seriously and you find the embarrassing moment hilarious.

Many years ago I went into the wrong classroom being on my phone till someone said I was in the wrong room, it was the moment I laughed and said “How embarrassing!” and everyone laughed with me.

Lifehack.org has said the following,

“Laughing at yourself shows that you have the courage to do so and you’re being real about your imperfections, making people think you are likable instead of cranky and uptight all the time.”
You’re showing people that you are not a very serious and strict person like Karen. You know how to have fun and you break the tension in a room when you make a joke or laugh at something.

The biggest mistake in life is never having the freedom to be yourself.

How to apply.

Laugh a little bit more in life.
Move on from mistakes easily.
Don’t take yourself or life seriously.
Quote of the topic.

“To make mistakes is human; to stumble is commonplace; to be able to laugh at yourself is maturity.” ~ William Arthur Ward.

5. You Are Chill To Be Around.

People feel good spending time with you and you’re able to make people feel less alone when you look at the world in the same way as them.

You give space for people to be themselves and many people love spending time with someone who is chill, unbothered, and free of drama.

You have no time to gossip about people behind their back. You only judge someone based on their character but most of all, you just want to have a good time with good people in a good environment.

Your aura is warm and kind. You are born with a welcoming aura that makes people attracted to you. — And yes, even the toxic ones.

You are able to make everyone feel welcome in your presence without judgment and you give people space to express themselves fully without making them feel alone.

How to apply.

Give people space to be themselves.
Allow people to express themselves.
Include people in your conversation.
Quote of the Topic.

“You need to surround yourself with good energy.” ~ Shay Mitchell.

6. You Are Independent On Your Own.

You can have fun on your own without people and sometimes we have the most fun when we are alone because we have the freedom to do whatever we want to do.

People are more interested in you and find you cool to be around when you don’t need people all the time to feel heard and seen and they can see you’re having fun on your own.

You are neither clingy nor needy when it comes to people. It makes them want to join your presence even more.

You’re not afraid of doing your own things, on your own and without anyone. You’ve perfectly balanced the art of social life and introverted life.

How to apply.

Switch your focus from people to your passion.
Prioritize your plans before saying yes to a new plan.
Believe you can be alone on your own for a period of time.
Quote of the Topic.

“Promise me you will always remember — you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~ Christopher Robin.
The Final Thoughts.

Your perception of “cool” may be weird for someone else. Everyone can be different and still remain cool to some people.

I believe being cool is your mindset and attitude in life and the way you handle life in front of you makes you amazing.

All you have to do:

  1. Never be afraid to be unique.
  2. Have an open conversation with people.
  3. Keep it cool during heated moments.
  4. Break the tension using humor.
  5. Have a chill and positive vibe.
  6. Be independent on your own.

Envious people will never admit how cool you are but the real ones will compliment you for being such a cool person to be around.

You should only cherish the ones who can admit and acknowledge who you really are. They’re the ones who accept you for being cool and special.

We all have a different definition of what makes someone “cool”, but what is your definition?


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